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Female friend flirts with coupled men

Carolyn Hax on

And don't bring your girlfriend into it for any reason, no no no. The reason for boundaries is that K doesn't have them, not that your girlfriend is the one who noticed.

Maybe when K's friends hold the line, K will get the message about how often she crosses it.

You may ultimately need to distance yourself, even if her actions elicit more sympathy than anger or annoyance. That's because the specifics of someone's neediness eventually become secondary to a lack of interest in being part of it anymore.

Dear Carolyn:

Earlier this week, management said they were considering allowing people to bring their dogs to work and were open to comments on the matter. People got really excited, especially three people on my team.

I do not like dogs. I'm not allergic, I just prefer not to be around them. Service or therapy dogs, I would be fine with.

I want to approach them with my concerns, but I am worried about backlash. I am considering asking management to designate a few days a month, but not to make it daily.

 

-- Dogged

Sounds fine. Or how about a trial period -- canine Fridays? -- so you can see how it goes?

I am pro-dog but amazed at how inconsiderate people are about foisting them on others, particularly with allergies but also with anyone who's not a fan.

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