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How 'twin brothers' can respond to rude questions from adults

Carolyn Hax on

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

My wife and her sister gave birth two days apart. Six months later, my wife's sister and her husband were killed in a car accident, and we adopted their son and have raised the two boys as "twin brothers" even though biologically they're cousins.

My wife's sister's husband was a different race than us, so it's obvious from looking at the two boys that they're biologically not twins. The boys never seem to give it any thought, until adults ask nosy questions like, "Why do you boys say you're brothers when you're not?" Our family hasn't come up with the right answer to that question and I'm wondering if you could help us. Thanks.

-- Anonymous

What a beautiful way to deal with a terrible loss.

I can see kids being nosy about it, but adults? Really, people.

I suggest you settle on one or two non-answer answers that mark the end of the discussion (adapt as needed for your responses or the boys'):

"Because it works for us."

"Who says we aren't brothers?"

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