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Friend uses work and relationship problems to excuse bad behavior

Carolyn Hax on

I met a guy at a bar from another state. We hit it off, met for drinks a couple of days later, and the potential for a relationship was born before he headed home.

That was two months ago. We met up in a third city about a month ago for a three-hour dinner date while I was on a work trip, which was quite pleasant.

Another month has gone by. I can't travel to him for one more month due to additional travel, and he hasn't fully committed to visit me yet. We talk on the phone twice per week with a small smattering of texts in between. I'm starting to be over it due to the limited communication.

There's just not enough there to maintain interest in between cross-country flights and it's starting to feel uninteresting, despite the fact he still seems excited about me.

Do I give him a chance to visit again before killing it? Or does the slow two-month build up to not much speak for itself? Friends are telling me to give it time, but my ex-boyfriend texts more often than he does and that feels telling.

-- Long-Distance

 

Friends, timing of next visit, ex's text frequency -- these are all clutter. You have lost interest. That's all you need to know.

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