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When a friend's boyfriend won't stop rubbing your leg

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Hi, Carolyn:

I was recently out to dinner to celebrate with a close friend who has been treated for breast cancer and has received a clean bill of health. She included her live-in boyfriend in the celebration.

I noticed he was bumping my leg. I simply moved out of way the first and second times. After the third bump, I realized he was ...Read more

Wife invites her sisters along on their anniversary trip

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

My wife and I are coming up on a milestone anniversary. We have been talking about taking a big trip to observe this.

Recently, my wife was visiting her sisters and started talking about this trip. I'm not exactly sure what happened, or how it happened, but apparently, she said, "Do ...Read more

Mom not comfortable with sleepovers at daughter's new friend's house

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Dear Carolyn:

One of my daughter's new middle school friends is from a family that is clearly struggling. The girl is loved, but parents are divorced and juggling a recent death of a relative, another relative with a severe substance abuse issue, and some financial setbacks. The girl has grown up quickly and has considerable freedom, coming ...Read more

Divorced dad struggles to schedule play dates for his daughter

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

I'm a divorced dad and have my daughter, 9, every other week. I try to schedule play dates for her and am met with hesitation. It seems like her mom can easily schedule them.

I usually have to talk to the moms to schedule things. Is there anything I can do to show I am a well-...Read more

Her son is close to losing his family to marital problems. Should she butt in?

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Dear Carolyn:

I am very concerned about my adult son and his relationship with his second wife.

Bear with me -- I know he's an adult! But: His first marriage failed, more to do with her, but he wasn't blameless. Now he's married to a fabulous woman, and there are two adorable babies as well.

So I see him doing the same kinds of things as ...Read more

After his baseball-related head injury, Grandma would bench grandson for life

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

My son has always loved baseball and now that he's grown he coaches his son's baseball team. This past summer my grandson got hit in the head with a ball and was knocked unconscious, and he didn't play for the rest of the season. I assumed he was done playing baseball, but my son told ...Read more

Should she confront her boyfriend's not-so-secret admirer?

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

A few years ago, my husband passed away young. I just started dating a great guy; he got divorced about the same time I became a widow.

It's pretty obvious one of his close friends has a major thing for him. She texts him constantly. When we are all hanging out, she is really clingy ...Read more

Lobbying for immediate-family-only holidays? It's not a fight you'll win.

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Dear Carolyn:

My family of four comes from out of state for my mom's holiday dinners. She says since she hosts, she decides the guest list. Mom says "Jane," my aunt, and her son should be included. I argue that my family comes for a short time a few times a year so a Christmas or Thanksgiving family dinner with us happens rarely. Mom can ...Read more

Should I transfer from college where I'm being shunned?

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

I'm a freshman at a small college and I'm involved in two groups -- let's pretend tennis and choir.

At a choir event, a guy I didn't know started flirting with me and we ended up kissing but nothing else. Someone told a girl in the tennis club they'd seen me kissing her boyfriend. I ...Read more

Never too late to seek therapy

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Hi, Carolyn:

I'm a woman who has had PTSD for 28 years after being raped and beaten. I'm now 63 and it seems to be getting worse. Am I too old to go for therapy? Should I just resign myself to living with this for the rest of my life?

-- Feeling Old

"Too old to go for therapy"? Are you also too old to take medicine when you're ill, or ...Read more

My father-in-law doesn't want his grandchild's name hyphenated

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

My husband and I are late-20s and expecting a baby girl. For professional and personal reasons, my husband and I both kept our own last names. My father-in-law, ["Phil"], has absolutely lost it upon learning that we plan to hyphenate the baby's last name, reportedly crying and fuming ...Read more

Handling those no-shows at parties

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Dear Carolyn:

My family recently celebrated our son's birthday. We had a number of guests RSVP "yes" to our invitation who not only didn't show, but also didn't even have the decency to contact us to let us know. It's been a week since the party.

This left us with far too much cake, food, money spent, and time wasted wondering if/when these...Read more

Mom of two girls knows not 'everybody' wishes for a boy

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Hi, Carolyn:

My husband's sister, "Kate," is expecting her second child. They have a 3-year-old girl. My husband and I have two girls, 8 and 6. At our house this week, Kate talked extensively about her hopes that this next baby is a boy. Some of her reasons are cultural -- her husband comes from an ...Read more

When is the best time to have 'the talk' with kids?

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

This week I was in a discussion with a bunch of other third-grade parents about what our kids know about sex. The vast majority of these parents said their children were "clueless" and they wanted to maintain their kids' innocence. I was one of the few people who had even had ...Read more

Husband interrupts her 20 times a day just to say 'I love you'

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Dear Carolyn:

I married late in life, at 46, and prior to my marriage I was (mostly) happy as a single person. Husband had been married before and really identifies as part of a couple.

He has this thing he does that I find super annoying, and then feel guilty about being annoyed by, and I can't quite decide if it's a sweet thing I should ...Read more

Not every vacation needs to include extended family

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

Should there be expectations about taking vacations/trips with other family members? We have two issues:

(1) We have three kids, including teenagers, and my brother and wife have two kids. The younger is 6. My wife and I find it hard to plan something other than a cruise, beach or all-...Read more

Unpleasant visits with motormouth relatives make estrangement tempting

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Hi, Carolyn:

We have a few relatives, including a sibling, who we don't see or hear from often, as we are busy or live far away. We meet over a meal or for an hour or so, or at family gatherings requiring a drive, and I am so frustrated that they dominate the conversation, often talking about people we don't even know or subjects that don't ...Read more

When your houseguest decides it's appropriate to invite 10 more houseguests to your house

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Dear Carolyn:

My husband and I adopted a dog that does not like strangers; he is in intensive training and part of that is having strangers over to our house to practice meeting people. I usually invite a friend over after explaining the situation to them and promising free dinner and drinks.

I ...Read more

Taking responsibility for an 'oops' puppy

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

Dear Carolyn:

About a year and a half ago my husband and I purchased a dog. She was way too busy for us, so my daughter took her. We helped pay to have the dog spayed, as she was ours to start with.

Anyway, since then, whenever my daughter takes a trip for a weekend or longer, she thinks my husband and I should be the ones to take care of ...Read more

Her problem isn't lack of an engagement ring, it's lack of intimacy

Life Advice / Carolyn Hax /

By CAROLYN HAX

Adapted from a recent online discussion.

Hi, Carolyn:

I have been seriously dating my boyfriend for over two years, and we live together. I have expressed more than once that I want to be married, and that it is something I value and want in life, and we had a lengthy conversation about it a couple months ago. He always ...Read more

 
 

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