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Ask Amy: Bride’s wedding planning is going bananas

Amy Dickinson, Tribune Content Agency on

If you don’t want rowdy guests, then limit (or don’t serve) alcohol. If you want the focus solely and exclusively on you, then get married in a small room, standing before a mirror.

Dear Amy: My husband and I invited my side of the family over for Thanksgiving dinner. However, our niece and nephew asked if they could bring five additional people to our dinner.

We don't know these people (except for two of them), and so my husband said no, because we had two newborn babies coming, but mainly we think it was very impolite for our niece and nephew to ask.

We would have accepted the two people we knew, but beyond that, no way.

What is your take on this?

– Afraid to Disappoint

 

Dear Afraid: Thanksgiving is traditionally a dinner where the spirit is one of openness and hospitality.

It is also traditionally a dinner that can be very challenging to prepare for and host.

My basic point is that it isn’t necessarily impolite to ask to bring more guests, unless the request itself makes the hosts feel pushed into a corner, which this request obviously has done. Five people is a lot of extra people to accommodate.

They asked, the answer was no, and – assuming that they accepted the answer graciously – I hope that everybody moved on.

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