Ask Amy: Bride’s wedding planning is going bananas
Is my fiance’s lack of understanding and support a red flag?
– Silence is Golden
Dear Silence: Congratulations! You are on the verge of attaining legendary Bridezilla status.
Yes, there are many flags flying over this unusual affair (and they’re yellow, of course).
I hope your fiancé is paying attention, because if you are this self-centered now – I can only imagine what the dynamic will be like later, for instance if you choose to have children.
Somewhere along the line, you seem to have gotten the idea that a wedding is for the bride alone, to serve her whims and fancies. No. Public weddings are family events and should celebrate the joining of two families.
Your fiance’s job is not to support you regardless of how dumb your ideas are. That’s not how marriage works.
Let’s start with your request that all guests must wear yellow. I have yet to see a man’s yellow outfit that didn’t bring to mind a giant banana.
Let’s move on to the silence. Generally, guests don’t speak during wedding ceremonies, unless asked to read aloud.
But a silent reception? Aside from some traditions associated with a Quaker wedding (which yours obviously is not), the idea of a silent reception goes well with your color scheme: basically bananas.
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