Ask Amy: Camping trip might lead to a long break
I destroyed every card and 99 percent of my pictures of the two of us.
He says he doesn't want a divorce. He says he wants me here with him.
He is refusing counseling.
Any suggestions?
– Sad and Empty
Dear Sad: You seem quite focused on what your husband says, and on what he claims to want.
Given that you don’t trust him at all, you should not trust his lame explanations or dodging statements. Nor should you judge a single woman for agreeing to go camping with your married husband. Why? Because, given that he seems to be supplying the information here, there is some likelihood that she doesn’t know that he is married, or that he has told her that you two are separated or divorced.
All of your information about your husband’s behavior comes from him.
Over two decades of being with him should have taught you this: Lying liars lie. It’s what they do. Nor does your husband seem particularly interested in changing.
Take the time you need to grieve this relationship, but it is also important that you focus on what you want and need from here on out. Life is short. You have an opportunity for a fresh start. Counseling will help you to clarify your options. Go to counseling without him.
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