Ask Amy: Spa worker knows unethical owner is all wet
You might be helpful to your sister if you offer to talk this through with her and assure her that you will offer her continued emotional support.
Dear Amy: “To Tell or Not” wondered whether to tell her future husband about her previous sexual abuse history.
I did not work through my abuse history until after the death of my abuser, several years into my marriage and after the birth of my child.
I finally got the nerve to tell my husband by writing a letter outlining what had happened. His response? “I always knew there was something wrong with you.”
I was stunned. He never said anything supportive.
That was the beginning of the end of our marriage.
Had I known he would have thought I was “defective,” I probably would have never married him.
– Learned too Late
Dear Learned: I’m so sorry. Thank you for offering your perspective.
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