Ask Amy: Spa worker knows unethical owner is all wet
Her fear of being disowned by her children once they know the truth keeps her quiet. Plus, she sees no reason to upset so many families.
Is it her secret to keep from her five adult children?
The letters I read in your column make it clear that eventually, with the prevalence of DNA testing, it’s only a matter of time until this is revealed.
Is it my secret to tell?
Your thoughts?
– Not my Secret?
Dear Not: Knowing a secret doesn’t make it “yours.” So this secret is not yours to share.
Yes, your sister’s adult children do have the right to know their DNA heritage. Your sister is the person who should tell them.
She can either tell them herself and have a hope of controlling the narrative, or she can wait until the inevitable DNA search reveals the truth.
Keep in mind that if ANY of the three affected siblings (or their children) register on a DNA site, they could become connected with other DNA relatives out there (unknown half-siblings or their children, for instance) and could start the process of unraveling this very tangled web.
...continued
