Ask Amy: Terminated employee terminates baby gift
We are planning to host our first larger indoor gathering since she got the dog.
We do not want to establish a precedent where the pup is automatically included in every event, but – we don’t know how to roll this back.
Your suggestions?
– Unsure
Dear Unsure: Like many people, I acquired a “pandemic pup” – also adorable and a real crowd-pleaser. And even though my dog is of the portable variety and has been welcome in others’ homes, I assume that any host’s preference is not to have a dog visit. I know this because I wouldn’t want to host a guest’s dog at an indoor gathering.
You’ll have to train your cousin. Simply tell her, “We enjoy your dog, but because we’re going to have a larger indoor gathering this time, we’re hoping you can safely leave pup-pup home.”
People who have adorable dogs sometimes seem to have a blind spot regarding the people in their lives. Your cousin may insist that her dog will not be any trouble. You’ll have to be firm and say, “It just won’t work out for us this time.”
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My wife could have written that letter 40 years ago when we were dating.
The first six years of our marriage was extremely difficult because I didn't understand why she held back emotionally.
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