Ask Amy: Lucky employee now sits on the fence
The generous options these companies have allowed you to pursue seem to have paralyzed you.
Now you must make a decision. I can’t tell you what decision to make, but you have to make one. The longer you delay, the more like a dope you will feel.
If you leave, you may regret it. If you stay, you might also have regrets.
It’s OK to stumble a bit. It’s OK to pursue an opportunity but then change your mind.
But you’ve turned what should be a transactional experience into an emotionally fraught experience.
Decide what is best for you – not these two employers. And make your choice, notify them, and commit to the choice you’ve made. If you end up declining to move to New Company, thank them sincerely for their patience and tell them that Old Company has made staying where you are the best choice for you.
Dear Amy: I have a brother and sister-in-law who just don’t get it.
They brag incessantly about their two brilliant, gorgeous, talented granddaughters.
That alone would be annoying but at the same time they are critical of my grandchildren, who are, of course, brilliant, gorgeous, and talented.
The last time we spoke, my sister-in-law actually said that her granddaughter is a genius.
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