Ask Amy: Warehouse worker wants to clock out
After your shift, you can say to yourself: “OK, here they come. Here are my ‘teachers,’ butting in line. Don’t mind me. I’ll be hanging out here, quietly practicing my equanimity and improving my life.”
You can also try to develop compassion toward these people, who might have to race to pick up kids from daycare or have otherwise urgent needs that they believe outweigh yours.
This does not excuse their rudeness – but choosing compassion can help you to cope with it.
Deciding to do so under these sorts of circumstances can also make you smile – because you’re using someone else’s rudeness to actually make your own life better.
Dear Amy: My husband is the executor of his parents' will.
He is the second of their three children and the oldest boy.
His parents have, at best, a strained relationship with their daughter, “Anne.”
As a result, they have named Anne in their will only to state that she will get nothing when they are gone.
They won’t tell Anne about their choice, but often tell my husband, “You can deal with her!" when the time comes. They say that the look of disappointment on her face will be priceless.
My question is, why can't they tell her now?
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