Ask Amy: Estrangement from family is hard to describe
Other people going through this could commiserate and provide emotional support and advice.
Dear Amy: “Mother of the Groom” says she wants to be a good mother-in-law, while criticizing every choice her son’s fiancée was making with their wedding.
She should follow the advice of my mother-in-law: Mind your own business.
For the last 45 years, my MIL has never criticized or commented on anything.
Her position is that she has enough to worry about without taking on my or my wife's stuff. Believe me, Amy, I've given her plenty to complain about.
We just celebrated MIL's 85th birthday and I toasted her saying that she had first the kindness and secondly the wisdom to allow my wife and me to make our own way, for which I am forever grateful.
To Mother of the Groom: It’s not your wedding! So let the woman who hopefully will spend the rest of her life with your son have the wedding she wants.
– Grateful Son-in-law
Dear Grateful: This is a touching tribute to a very wise mother-in-law.
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