Ask Amy: Siblings estranged from mom want no contact
Dear Amy: My fiancé “Benjamin” and I have been together for four years. We planned and then replanned our wedding because of the pandemic. It has been rescheduled two times now.
Before rescheduling again, we realized we have officially had it. Everything about this big event – the constant concerns about our family members and guests, the details and checklists, and especially the expense – seems ridiculous to us now.
We had a heart-to-heart and have decided to get married quickly and quietly, canceling the celebration.
We are going to disappoint a lot of people. Frankly, we’re a little freaked out about that.
Words of courage, please?
– Nervous
Dear Nervous: I commend you for anchoring your plans now to your important intention, which is to get married.
Go to the courthouse next weekend – if that is what you want to do. You could notify local immediate family to witness and have lunch afterward (if you want).
One caution: Don’t post your news on social media until you notify all of your wedding guests about your ultimate change of plans – perhaps accompanied by a photo of your little ceremony.
These guests should be the first to know.
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