Ask Amy: Audacious text message leads to blunt response
Dear Amy: My wife of over 25 years is foreign-born.
She travels to her home country for an extended period almost every year. I’ll join her for a few weeks, and she’ll stay a while longer after I return home.
Recently when she returned home, she told me that after I had left, she was introduced to a male acquaintance of her family’s.
She said that they did not have a conversation, but did notice that he stared at her constantly.
Afterward this man tracked her down and sent her a text message, which she let me read. It was quite lengthy and frankly, incredibly audacious. He told her how attractive she is, how he wanted to spend time with her, and suggested how to discreetly contact him to arrange a rendezvous.
Her response to him was overly polite: “I’m flattered, but I’m busy. Perhaps some other time.”
I made a note of his phone number and a few weeks later sent him a terse message (I’m fluent in his language), that he was rude, unmannerly, interested only in a sexual encounter with my wife, and to back off.
He did not answer my message; instead he forwarded it to my wife, who got angry and said that I embarrassed her and violated her privacy.
I told her that while I may have ruined her other man fantasy, someone had to put him in his place, and I was proud to do it.
My wife is a very attractive woman. I am aware of the attention she receives.
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