Ask Amy: A grandson’s prom gown horrifies his grandmother
Dear Amy: I have one son and two grandsons.
The older grandson, age 17, appeared at his prom wearing a full-length purple gown with nail polish to match.
I privately told my son (his father) that I was concerned for my grandson’s safety, as he would be a target if he is so flamboyant.
My son became very defensive and said that people can love who they want, and that society needs to get used to it. I agree. But there are people out there who don’t like this “in your face” behavior.
I have not mentioned this again. I don’t want to alienate my son or grandson, but the prospect of having a LGBTQ grandson makes me sick.
He spends most of his time alone in his room and is very sullen. His maternal grandfather committed suicide last year, so I am concerned about the mental health of the entire family.
They are receiving counseling individually and as a family.
Can I do anything other than cry myself to sleep?
Could this be a phase, or will he always be like this?
– Devastated Grandma
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