Ask Amy: Group chat leads to group dilemma
Dear Amy: My niece (the youngest) is getting married in far northern Minnesota at a luxurious location. I live in the Southwest.
My brother (her dad) just sent me an email telling me that his wife is very upset that I am not planning to attend. He stated that he had hoped one person from our side of the family would be there.
I live 1,000 miles away and work full time. I cannot afford airfare – or gas and hotel expenses – nor can I take that much time away from work.
In addition, it would not be wise to drive that distance alone!
My two older brothers (one of which is the bride’s dad) are retired and have excessive incomes.
Should I consider asking them for the funds, so I might possibly be there to represent the family?
– A Sister in a Quandary!
Dear Sister: In addition to the father of the bride, you have another brother who might be able to represent your side of the family.
You have lined up a list of reasons why you cannot attend this wedding. (Either you can get the time off from work, or you can’t.)
If you want to attend, you should respond honestly: “I would really like to be there, but honestly I just cannot afford the expense. I’m really sorry.”
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