Ask Amy: Text messages interfere with couple’s trust
What is your suggested course of action? Should I still enclose a check?
– Wondering
Dear Wondering: Because one of these young people is a stranger and the other has a bit of a history with you, you should think primarily about what would make YOU feel the best.
Would it make you feel good to ignore the ungrateful grad? (It might…).
I’d probably send a card and a very modest amount to both, congratulating them and telling them that their first post-grad cappuccino (or martini) is on you.
You will not be thanked.
Dear Amy: You are so good at what you do, but I wish life were as easy as you make it seem.
Many days my wife and I discuss your advice. I’ll read a letter out loud, and we both try to guess what you’ll say.
After we both had our turns, I do the “reveal” and we’d decide who was closer.
– Randy
Dear Randy: Many families report doing this together – and it makes me extremely happy. Thank you!
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