Ask Amy: Partner ignored by family wonders why
Dear Amy: I am 35; my "fiance" is 40.
We have been engaged for 11 years.
My question is NOT about why we haven’t gotten married.
I am wondering why his father has not made any attempt to make me feel welcome, even after so many years of us being together.
Almost every weekend, his father comes over and picks up my fiancé. They then go back to his dad’s house to hang out for the majority of the day.
Even the simplest greetings are met with blank stares. He completely ignores my presence!
Amy, I can't even get a “hello” out of the man.
My partner always says, “Just give him time.” Then he changes the subject.
My family has gone out of their way to make my partner feel welcome, because they know that I love him and he is a part of my life.
I just don't understand why he hasn't done anything to remedy the situation. Or why I have not gotten a valid reason for his father's choice to completely alienate me, even though he welcomed in his brother's psycho girlfriend into their lives with open arms.