Ask Amy: Mom frets about daughter’s disordered eating
Dear Amy: My daughter is 33, living on her own, thriving in her career, and in most aspects doing very well. She lives in a different city, so I only see her several times a year. We talk on the phone often.
When she was a teenager, she had an eating disorder (anorexia). We intervened and took her to an expert therapist who worked with her for two years. She developed many tools to deal with her disordered eating.
Stress is a trigger and can send her into anxiety disorder behaviors.
She is currently trying to relocate to another state, and I am concerned (mostly from her social media posts) that she may be dealing with disordered eating habits again. She looks very thin.
Her brother told me that he is very concerned, but he doesn't feel she would be open to any concerns/suggestions he may have.
She is ultra-sensitive when I question anything about her eating.
When she was in therapy her therapist had told the family members that we needed to let her make her own choices about food – to put her in control.
I fear she's dealing with her current stress in a way that is unhealthy.
How do you suggest I best help without alienating her?
– Concerned Parent