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Ask Amy: Youth group texts bug elder

Amy Dickinson, Tribune Content Agency on

Dear Amy: I have a 12-year-old daughter who belongs to a youth group at church. When she joined, the leaders asked for her cell number so they could contact her about activities.

Our daughter does not have a cellphone because we believe she is too young. The leaders then added my cell number (without my permission).

They send out a couple of text messages each week, which then end up with 15 to 20 replies because the girls use it to comment, talk, joke, etc, – completely off topic.

Each time this happens, I ask the leaders to remove my number, which they do, and then a few weeks later I am back on their list and getting the group texts again.

I have complained and asked them to stop adding me, but their most recent reply was that this is how they communicate, and they are concerned that my daughter will miss out.

Their activities are weekly and are always held at the same time.


My daughter has not missed out yet, and I am getting frustrated with having my cellphone blow up every time they start a new chain.

How do I get these leaders to show some common text courtesy without pulling my daughter from a group of friends she wants to be with?

What is appropriate texting in these situations?

– Fed Up


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