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My wife and I are the only people who drive the girls to and from their activities.
It has been this way for months.
We asked the other parents (our neighbors) to help with the pickup, but they refused - saying that it interferes with their evening routines such as making dinner.
Yesterday I had to work late, and I asked if they could do carpool just once – but they said they were busy cooking dinner and couldn’t pick up the girls.
I cook dinner for my daughters, too, but I still always find time to drive the girls to and from their activities.
How do I respond to this?
– Swim Parent
Dear Parent: It might be tempting to simply leave the neighbors’ daughter at home or at the pool one day in order to try to teach them all a lesson, but then you would be punishing the daughter for having thoughtless and unhelpful parents.
I think you should see this through to a terminus – either a holiday break or the end of the season. And then find another nearby family who will actually carpool to the pool.
If the neighbors approach you to ask about driving, tell them, “I’m looking for someone to actually share the driving with me. Let me know what days you’re willing to do that.”
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