Ask Amy: Mom of trans teen is worried about church
I decided to say yes.
During our first conversation, my biological father apologized for not being part of my life and took responsibility for his actions.
My parents were 18 when I was conceived. They were young and scared and made decisions they regretted.
However, it has been a blessing to text and speak on the phone, as well as to meet in person.
He has sent a couple of small handmade gifts for me and his first great-grandson.
Overall, it has been great to get to know him.
My suggestion for people wrestling with this is: Don't pass up the opportunity, it could turn out well. If not, just walk away.
– Pleasantly Surprised
Dear Surprised: I have mentioned this many times (especially lately), but the ubiquity of DNA testing is basically coming for everyone.
Each of us should try to anticipate the possibility of being contacted by DNA relatives. I agree with you that this presents opportunities, but many people are quite naturally wary, because there are also risks to these connections. It isn’t always easy to just walk away.
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