Ask Amy: Mom of trans teen is worried about church
You have one child.
There are other churches.
I suggest that you take some time to get very comfortable with your child’s gender transition, and then share this knowledge with friends, family, and fellow congregants over time. You don’t need to make a big announcement but acknowledge the truth the way you would other aspects of your child’s life to people who are interested. (The “tux” comment was one opportunity for you to say, “The reason my teen didn’t wear a gown to the prom is because they identify as male.”)
People may let you down – but please — do not let your faith fail you!
If people at church respond unkindly, you can assure them that you will pray for them to open their hearts. Then, you should look for another place to worship.
Pflag.org offers great resources and advice for parents of transgender people.
Dear Amy: You offered advice to a woman (“What If”), who was traumatized when a suicidal man deliberately ran into the path of her car.
You pointed out similarities between her experience and that of train personnel who are involved in these tragic incidents.
I am a locomotive engineer. I had a 20-year-old boy jump in front of my train.
The rational side of my brain knows it wasn’t my fault, but there is no escaping the emotional shock.
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