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Neither of us want to hurt anyone's feelings, but isn't it rude and presumptuous to invite people to someone else's party?
What should we do?
Should we just go along with it and hope we can accommodate everyone?
One person who wants to bring his adult son (because he really likes my husband) made a snide remark about paying for their dinners.
Please advise me. I really don't know what to do.
– Losing Sleep
Dear Losing Sleep: The last time this happened to me (and it happens to all hosts), I also lost sleep over the question of how to respond to people who wanted to bring extra guests – some of whom were people I’d never met.
And then one day I woke up and decided that it was “no” day.
I told people, “I’m so sorry — but it won’t be possible for you to bring an extra guest, but I hope you’ll still be able to come. Just let me know.”
Every single person responded with a version of this: “OK, no problem. Hey, it doesn’t hurt to ask!”