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Ask Amy: ‘Best of’ column gets to the meat of the matter

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They invited my husband and me to dinner and served a vegan meal, which we graciously ate and enjoyed.

We always host Thanksgiving dinner at our home, and I invited them to join us.

I offered to prepare an all-vegan meal for them, alongside our more traditional Thanksgiving feast.

Their answer was that they would be unable to eat in a home where there are dead animal products served at the table.

In other words, if there is turkey on the table, they cannot attend. Amy, my family enjoys the traditional Thanksgiving meal every year.

I don't think it's fair to dictate what we should serve. My son said I should just make a vegan meal for everyone to keep the peace.


My family will not attend Thanksgiving dinner under those circumstances, and I don't blame them. How should I handle this?

– Meat Lovers

Dear Meat Lovers: Despite what your son says, you should not assume that "the peace" is at stake. If these people are consistent, this means they cannot enjoy a meal or snack in many homes, restaurants or coffee shops.

This is their choice, and after trying to reasonably accommodate them, you should respond with acceptance.


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