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Ask Amy: ‘Best of’ column blames it on the name

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Dear Exhausted: In my life, the husbands may change, but the name stays the same. [March 2012]

Dear Amy: The trend of women keeping their maiden names as their last names may have peaked. In my circle of late-marrying professional women, the trend is Susie Middle-Name / Maiden-Name becomes: Susie Maiden-Name / His Last-Name upon marriage.


Dear ARB: Statistics don’t lie: For women, keeping one’s name upon marriage has become rarer in the past decade. (I do wish we would stop using the phrase “maiden name” to describe a woman’s given surname.)

Dear Amy: Something like this happened to me. One of my husband’s friends announced, “Well, I’m going to refer to you as ‘Susie Jones’ because that’s what your name should be.”

I responded, “Then I’m going to refer to you as ‘Big Fat Jerk’ because that’s what I think your name should be.” I only had to call him that once.


– My Name is My Own

Dear Own: Fortunately, he sounds like a quick learner. [April 2012]


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