Ask Amy: Friend worries that ghosting might not be enough
If Anthony is emotionally abusive, it is also possible that he would be capable of trying to control you through a sort of emotional blackmail: “If you leave me, my depression might lead me to spiral into a dangerous state.” However, in this case, you seem to be supplying Anthony’s script for him.
Anthony is responsible for his own feelings and reactions. If you are determined to express yourself to him, without being gratuitously or recreationally unkind, you should say, “I was very disappointed in the way you treated Charles.” That’s it. He may explain, apologize, or offer a contrasting view. He may also choose to end the friendship with you.
Dear Amy: I met the man of my dreams. He is the love of my life, and my soulmate.
He has recently been arrested for not updating his whereabouts, as he is a registered sex offender. He was wrongly accused and did his time. He will most likely go back to prison for a few months because of not updating his address.
I love this man. He's a good man and he's good to me. We are both madly in love and I will support him, regardless.
I've lost friends and a couple of family members because they are not happy with my choice. They refuse to see his side of the story.
Why can't they just be happy for me? Is it so bad that I support my fiancé?
How do I handle people judging me for making a choice that makes me happy?
– C
Dear C: Failure to register as a convicted sex offender is a serious crime in every state.
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