Ask Amy: Teen struggles with besting her ‘bestie’
I've finally found the man of my dreams. To top it off, he is also amazing with my son. Unfortunately, there is one big issue.
He is about to be offered a job in China (where he is originally from), and I wouldn't be able to move overseas with him.
Before he met me, his plan was to accept this job once the position became available, but now he's conflicted.
Should I break off our relationship until he makes that decision on his own?
I don't want to feel like I'm keeping him from something he ultimately wanted, as he wasn't happy in the States prior to meeting me.
– Conflicted over China
Dear Conflicted: I don’t think you proactively breaking off the relationship would be useful. In fact, it might seem like a manipulation, even though you don’t mean it that way.
The answer is to love him through this. Assure him that you will support his choice to move back to China, if he decides that is best for him.
Do your best to accept his own wavering, without jumping in with answers.
This sort of selflessness on your part is how you will express your love and respect for him.
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