Ask Amy: Parents worry about daughter’s choices
Your daughter protected her boyfriend from some of the trouble associated with his previous DUI.
Any attempt by you to control her might actually insulate her from the actual consequences of living with such a needy and troublesome partner.
Convey that you care about her and are always in her corner. A “friends and family” support group like Al-anon could introduce her to others who are also powerless over another’s addiction. That might be a persuasive influence.
Dear Amy: My husband's family gathered for their annual holiday party. After 35 years of marriage, I acknowledge that these parties are stressful events for me.
I develop physical ailments approaching the dates of these gatherings and am unable to sleep.
There is excessive drinking and bigoted talk.
My husband's stance on this behavior is to ignore it.
I chose not to attend this year.
Apparently, my husband made up a story about my having to get together with an out-of-town friend.
Now, my sister-in-law is asking how my visit was with my friend.
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