Life Advice



Ask Amy: Partner and dog should roam free

Amy Dickinson, Tribune Content Agency on

You have known this person for a long time. That person is still there – carrying the same memories and shared experiences from before this transition. So, make an effort to see them for who they are, and as more than just a source of some awkwardness or confusion for you.

Keep your sense of humor, don’t become defensive, let them know that you’re a work-in-progress, and that you’re hoping for their continued patience while you adjust.

Dear Amy: “Dazed and Confused” was extremely distressed by the sudden reappearance of a long-ago ex.

I totally identified with her. I had an ex reappear, toy with my emotions, and then abruptly leave – just as he had done years before.

What a waste.

– Burned Twice


Dear Burned: I assume that at this point you’re relieved he took a powder.


(You can email Amy Dickinson at or send a letter to Ask Amy, P.O. Box 194, Freeville, NY 13068. You can also follow her on Twitter @askingamy or Facebook.)

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