Ask Amy: Friend’s alcoholism is out of control
Dear Amy: My friend is a drunk. This is disgusting to watch.
At several points over the years, when I have traveled with her, she has found ways to drink while a passenger in my car – often from a “water bottle” that has vodka in it.
If I were stopped by police and they found open liquor within reach inside my car, I would be immediately fired from my job.
I have discussed this with my friend, but she has still violated my trust.
She has gone to rehab, tried cold turkey, and been hospitalized. She lost her job due to her alcoholism.
She is an educated, vivacious, loving, caring friend who stood at my side when life kicked me in the head and heart as I dealt with the loss of my mother, and as other friends backed away.
I love our friendship.
I recently hosted a holiday celebration. I thought I was on alert, but I didn't notice how much she was drinking.
I looked across the table and saw (once again) the half-mast eyes, mouth agape with food dribbling out, down her dress, and onto the floor. Her face was almost in her plate. She spent the night passed out on my couch.
I have reached my limit. I spoke with her the next morning. She apologized profusely, but I realize that means nothing.