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Ask Amy: Emotional affair strains long marriage

Amy Dickinson, Tribune Content Agency on

Suddenly, I found myself reaching for that cat and resting it in my lap.

I can't begin to describe the immediate impact it had on my sanity and emotional well-being.

In addition to the laughter it brought when others asked, "Is that a cat on your desk?" it also provided comfort.

It saw me through some of my worst moments. It looked on without judgment and maintained peace in a world of chaos. It may be an inanimate object, but it served an important role. It became a real friend.

Since arriving home, I've taken that stuffed cat with me on multiple road trips and hikes. I still hold it when I'm in need of comfort. I will definitely be taking it with me on my next deployment.

– Unashamed Soldier

Dear Unashamed: Wait. I’ve got something in my eye.

Remember the lesson from the peerless book, “The Velveteen Rabbit”?

This is how beloved objects become “real.”


Dear Amy: I loathed your dangerous response to “Stuck,” who was torn between inviting non-vaccinated family members and a “paranoid” family member.

No vaccinated person should be sharing space with unvaccinated people. Period.

– Upset

Dear Upset: Each of us has the responsibility to assess our own risks, based on our own vaccination status – and information provided by the CDC.

For many families, using a rapid home antigen test right before gathering might be the best answer.


(You can email Amy Dickinson at or send a letter to Ask Amy, P.O. Box 194, Freeville, NY 13068. You can also follow her on Twitter @askingamy or Facebook.)

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