Ask Amy: Found money raises privacy questions
He responded, “I don't know what you are talking about.”
A few days later we were talking about purchasing a new appliance.
I again asked about the money.
He told me his privacy had been invaded. This kind of threw me off.
I left it at that.
I have no idea what I should be saying/doing at this point.
Your view would be appreciated.
Dear Confused: You and your husband seem to have a cat-and-mouse style of communicating. You describe the issue obliquely; he roars at you, you back off.
I suggest that you say these words: “Honey, as you know, I discovered three envelopes containing a large amount of cash. I believe I have a right to know what that’s about, and I know that if the situation were reversed, you would feel exactly the same way.”