Life Advice



Ask Amy: Neighbors not notified about a death on the street

Amy Dickinson, Tribune Content Agency on

Dear Upset: I could easily cite several very understandable reasons why these two women have not reached out, including the fact that they may have forgotten your names and affiliation with their parents.

If the rest of the houses on the street have changed hands several times over the years, they might have assumed that yours had, too.

Something as simple as them not having access to their folks’ address book (or you not being listed in it because you were actually neighbors), might have prevented them from contacting you.

Your question places you near the center of a very challenging and upsetting time for these daughters, but in my opinion, the respectful thing would be for YOU to reach out to them, expressing your sympathy over their sudden loss, and asking them for the best way you could keep in touch with their mother.

After a death, the note-writing is most often done by those expressing sympathy – not the other way around.

Dear Amy: I’m 35 years old. My ex and I went our separate ways at the beginning of the pandemic. I have my own issues, but mainly I could not handle her drinking.


Since the breakup, I’ve gone out with a couple of people, but have not met anyone I’m interested in.

My ex and I have tried to be friends, but about a week ago, she asked me for seduction tips for her new guy.

She was not subtle. She thought that we were friends enough to ask it.

We are not.


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