Ask Amy: New friendship takes an asexual turn
Dear Amy: I'm at a complete loss right now.
I am an asexual person in my late-30s. I am in a five-year relationship and am currently in school pursuing a degree.
About six weeks ago, another adult classmate of mine started pursuing a friendship with me (he has a wife and children). We've become really close during that time.
We talk about our feelings, hopes, dreams, fears, etc., and there has been an amazing level of what I thought was honest and healthy communication.
Recently, he caught me off guard with a conversation about how "this relationship will never be anything but platonic" and "we can't be anything more than friends."
I know. I was never after anything else.
Amy, I feel like I just got dumped and that really stinks because I've been very careful to monitor my friendship with him and not ever push it because I didn't want him getting the wrong idea.
It just hurts, because I don't make friends easily, and I don't know how to fix this.
I don’t even know if I can fix it.
I guess I just need a little help seeing the light. My head knows that I didn't actually do anything wrong, but my heart isn't getting that message.