Ask Amy: Friend’s husband is a bull in her china shop
Dear Amy: My husband and I are retired. We have a good life in a city that we moved to about seven years ago.
We’ve been able to make lots of new friends. I'm so pleased by the variety of people in our friend group.
What I'm not pleased about is that one of my dearest women friends, “Meg,” has a husband, “Mike,” who seems to insert himself into all kinds of situations where I would prefer that he not be.
Mike spends more time on Facebook than Meg does, and he seems to be “friends” with everybody in our social circle, which is pretty large.
The problem is that this guy has no filters at all. He comments on absolutely everything, is often loud and inappropriate, and is sometimes vulgar.
I think he thrives on being the center of attention.
I really don't believe there is a mean bone in his body, but there are days when just seeing his name on Facebook makes me want to shut my phone off.
Meg and I are close enough that we have talked a lot about our marriages, and we both agree that our spouses have their good and their bad points. She knows that Mike can be a nuisance.
There is at least one other woman in our social community who had similar feelings about Mike. She told Meg how she felt, and I'm pretty certain it has damaged their own long-term relationship.
Do you have any advice for me?