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Ask Amy: Tough diagnosis brings disclosure dilemma

Amy Dickinson, Tribune Content Agency on

As you wisely note, that is up to him.

I think you should invite all family members (including Eric) to your gathering, without attaching any qualifications or guarantees.

There is a likelihood that Eric will decide not to attend. That is his choice, and his loss. If he does attend, and behaves poorly, that is also on him.

I hope this goes well for you and the rest of your family.

Dear Amy: I don’t always agree with you, but I admit that I laughed out loud and cheered your response to “Unsure,” the cad who was ditching his wife, who had been his medical caretaker.

The line that got me was, “No doubt you will richly deserve whatever happiness is in store.”



– Big Fan

Dear Fan: I hope “Unsure” read the real meaning behind that line.


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