Ask Amy: Caregiving spouse is overwhelmed
Dear Amy: My wife was recently hospitalized, and, as I have done previously, I sent messages to family and her friends to let them know her status.
After each message, I received many in return, some asking questions that required a personal response.
When my wife was about to be discharged, I received multiple offers to help with shopping and other chores.
I had to write a tactful response to each, explaining that her diet has to be carefully controlled, so I have to do the shopping.
I have such mixed feelings about the incoming messages.
It is wonderful that family and friends care, but the volume of traffic requiring a response has been a burden on me at a difficult time.
What do you think is the proper protocol when receiving an update on CaringBridge, or through a mass email like mine?
Should people think good thoughts but maybe not respond directly?
Respond with a banal thanks/best wishes message?
Or demonstrate interest and caring by asking for more information, thus creating a stressor for the caregiver?