Ask Amy: Dad’s parenting style includes surveillance
Dear Amy: My husband and I have one daughter, 21, who is a college student.
I cannot get him to understand that kids need to make mistakes in order to learn.
He believes it's our job to keep them from making mistakes.
He drills her on details about school and even reads her email to make sure she's not missing something.
She doesn't want his help and I tell him to stop doing her thinking, planning, and problem-solving.
Because of this, we have conflict.
My motto is, "What's the worst thing that can happen?
His anger about this is causing marriage problems.
Please advise what I might do.
– Hurting Mom