Ask Amy: Grieving woman doesn’t want ‘suggestions’
I need help sorting out my emotions. I’d like your opinion on my dilemma.
— Torn
Dear Torn: My opinion is that you are not a fit partner — or parent.
Your emotions are your own to sort through, but if you take up with your partner’s sister, you will destroy not only your relationship with your partner and children, but you will also tear apart your partner’s family.
Emotions aside, you simply do not have the right to do that.
Dear Amy: Thank you for your thoughtful response to “Fed-up Granddaughter,” whose grandparents were extremely abusive and whose grandfather had sexually abused Fed-up’s mother as a child.
My heart broke for this young adult who was just trying to do the right thing, and I was relieved when you took her side with such compassion.
— Grateful
Dear Grateful: Attaining grandparent status does not automatically transform people into caring, kind-hearted, cookie-baking elders — unfortunately. Sometimes, age actually magnifies the monster.
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