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Ask Amy: Reconnected romance demands disconnection

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She not only refused to reciprocate the driving duties, but she mimicked what I had said to her the previous month! I was stunned and highly offended. We have had no contact since then.

Sadly, I can’t get past this incident. We have friends in the same circle, and I dread the day she asks me to pick her up to attend a mutual social engagement, which is something I will no longer do.

What do I say if she suggests breakfast (near her, of course) or asks for a ride to our friend’s house?

– Appalled

Dear Appalled: Given the tension between you two – and the fact that you old friends have not had any contact throughout the entire pandemic period – it seems unlikely that “Stacy” will call upon you to provide transportation. If she does contact you, you could bring up the somewhat mocking response that has bothered you so much.

One advantage of having a friendship on (or over) the line is that you can express yourself, respectfully, without fear that you will damage the relationship further.

Life is short. Your friendship is very long. I hope that you will eventually be able to clear the air.

Dear Amy: Your answer to the “Tennis Bums” was wrong.

It would be perfectly appropriate to politely ask the soccer player to find another place to practice. His practice against the tennis fence would be very distracting.

 

I am sure he didn't realize it – and would be happy to practice elsewhere.

The fact that he is Hispanic, and that soccer is such a popular sport should have nothing to do with it.

– A Tennis Player

Dear Player: No one liked my answer to the “Tennis Bums.” I did suggest they speak to the soccer player, but I also emphasized that this was a public park where a Wimbledon-like atmosphere was not in the cards.

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(You can email Amy Dickinson at askamy@amydickinson.com or send a letter to Ask Amy, P.O. Box 194, Freeville, NY 13068. You can also follow her on Twitter @askingamy or Facebook.)

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