Ask Amy: Stepchild would like for dad to leave stepmom at home
Dear Amy: My stepmother has been in my life since I was 15. There was a lot of trauma living with her. For years, I would have recurring nightmares of her berating me. I would wake up crying.
Her behavior puts a severe strain on my relationship with my father.
Recently, I discovered she has posted odd photos of the exterior of my home with cryptic messages to social media.
While she has never exhibited violent behavior, I felt very uneasy to know she has been standing outside my home taking pictures.
When I confronted my father, he just ignored it. He is uncomfortable having crucial conversations.
She has also posted lies about my mother. While I don't feel any need to confront her about that, I also don't want to be around a person who behaves this way.
I don't know how to get my father to respect my wishes.
Recently we argued because he wanted to come over to barbecue — and bring her along.
I put my foot down and said absolutely not, she is not welcome in my home, but he yelled at me and said that I'm selfish.
I'm 45 years old. I have my own family and no longer care to be around someone who is always so mean-spirited. I’m trying to leave the hurt behind.