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Ask Amy: Spouse worries about husband’s drinking

Amy Dickinson, Tribune Content Agency on

While my boyfriend won this one, and I said nothing, I would like to know your opinion.

– Tennis Bums

Dear Bums: It seems obvious that at a public park, a person has a right to use the fencing around the tennis court as a backstop, certainly if there are no other options.

Must others around you behave quietly, as if you are in the final rounds at Wimbledon?

All the same, if someone is behaving in a way that bothers you, you have the right to respectfully ask them to stop, regardless of their ethnicity.

If you had done so, the soccer player might have chosen to remind you that soccer is the most popular sport in the world for a reason and that even though your tennis playing might have bothered him, he had chosen to be tolerant.

Dear Amy: In a response to the “Testy Traveler,” the traveler who was bothered by her chatty seatmate on an airplane, my response to talkative seatmates is, "I hope you don't mind pausing our conversation, but I must rest my mind, now.” I then close my eyes and relax.


– Florida Reader

Dear Reader: I like your polite and definite response. I hope my own defenseless seatmate will use it on me the next time I fly.


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