Ask Amy: Attack victim wants to warn others
Dear Amy: Several years ago, I was physically attacked — and seriously injured — by a man I had dated, on and off, for several years. I had him arrested.
He was charged and received one year's probation. I was granted a restraining order.
My issue is with his family. After the attack, his sisters informed me that: He was a pathological liar, he had served jail time for felony DWI, he had a history of sponging off of women and family members, and his ex-wife had divorced him because of his alcoholism.
This man frequently drove my car, and his sisters knew it. And they also knew that, due to the felony DWI, he would never again possess a driver’s license.
I saw them a number of times throughout our relationship and was friends with both on Facebook, yet neither of them ever said one word to me about their brother.
I now check their FB regularly to see if their brother is dating anyone. Because if he is, I intend to tell her everything.
So far, nothing. But I think that warning potential victims is their responsibility, not mine. What do you think?
– Seriously Concerned
Dear Concerned: I can understand why you harbor feelings of bitterness toward this entire family, but by placing responsibility for protecting women onto these sisters, you seem to be asking them basically to police their brother.
I completely agree that once they became aware that you were in a longer-term relationship with him these sisters should have notified you of his terrible track record and felony conviction.
...continued
