Ask Amy: Long-married couple copes with negativity
Is this stuff gaslighting?
– Disgusted
Dear Disgusted: Gaslighting isn’t your husband lying about selling the living room furniture. Gaslighting would be if he convinced you that YOU had sold the living room furniture.
No, this is you losing 16 years of your life to a pathological liar.
Now go get your life back.
Dear Amy: “In a Quandary,” described a couple who had postponed their separation due to their daughter’s mental illness.
I think it is important that when they tell the daughter, they are very clear that the split was in the works before her mental health crisis began. If not, she is likely to surmise that her situation contributed to the split, which would be detrimental to her continued recovery.
– Mom in CT
Dear Mom: I agree – and thank you.
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