Ask Amy: Older sister may be overly ‘sistering’
I've asked my other sister and our mother what I did, and they’ve responded that they don't know.
This sister recently traveled to our area and when she was visiting with my mother she wouldn't allow me, my husband or any of our children to go over to my mother's house.
My mother allowed her to take this control.
My children were upset that they weren't allowed to visit their grandmother.
I still have no idea what I did that caused any of this.
My little sister still talks to our two other sisters.
This is really hard for me because I'm 20 years older than this sister and I was like a second mom to her. I did so much for her growing up. Up until recently we were close, or so I thought.
What did I do?
– In the Dark
Dear In the Dark: Insisting on distance when there is discomfort (or conflict) seems to be built in to the basic emotional operating system for some families.
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