Ask Amy: Dad is sad that wife has become ‘mom’
Dear Wondering: Sending a thank you note to someone who has sent a sympathy card is truly next-level loveliness, and I admire any grieving person who manages to do it.
If a person makes a memorial donation in your loved one’s name – a note acknowledging it is “required.”
Aside from actually getting a note into the mail, it is thoughtful and kind to acknowledge receipt of a sympathy note through a text, email, or call.
This gives both of you the opportunity to “close the loop.”
I seem to be sending many sympathy notes lately (a truly challenging and emotional task), and it is always gratifying to know that these messages have been received and read.
Dear Amy: Reading your letter from “Upset Guest” in the Lakeland (Florida) Ledger, I was concerned that this houseguest was not offered even a drink of water from their host!
Clearly, these people do not live in the old Deep South.
Anyone who comes to my door, even to deliver a newspaper, is invited in and offered at least a coffee, if not küchen and coffee. Shame on those ignorant people!
– Hospitable
Dear Hospitable: Keep the kuchen warm – I’ll be right over!
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