Ask Amy: This woman’s place is in the home – alone!
Do I just tell him a lie (“oh I'm off this day”), and say I made a mistake after I get my day at home?
I feel overwhelmed with still working 40-plus hours a week, planning meals, doing laundry, and helping with yard work.
He does help with laundry and vacuums for me.
But I just want a day to myself! Is this too much to ask?
– Needing “Me” Time!
Dear Needing: No, getting time to yourself is NOT too much to ask. You have already asked, and your husband – for whatever reason – is not willing to grant you what you need.
So take it.
Ask your husband about his volunteer schedule for the week and then rearrange your work schedule to be at home while he is gone.
Just make your plan and then explain, after the fact. Say, “I HAVE to have some time to myself at home. It’s that simple. In fact, I plan to do this each week.”
Your husband might be one of those people who never needs to be alone, and so he doesn’t realize how necessary and restorative a few hours of alone-time can be.