Ask Amy: Mother wonders if daughter is too happy
Dear Unsure: Whether this is how an adult should process her feelings is almost immaterial; this is how your stepdaughter does process her feelings. I suspect that she does this mainly (or only) with family members.
My take is that as long as she doesn’t create or extend the drama beyond its limited shelf-life, and as long as she recovers fully, you should accept this as an emotional flare that she will likely learn to modulate as she continues to mature.
Many of us have had (gulp) embarrassing episodes of crying at work. Let’s hope she is spared this experience.
Dear Amy: “Desperate” was the grandmother of two very troubled teenage grandchildren and one grandchild who seemed to be stable.
Desperate’s daughter was pressuring her to take one of these teenagers for the summer.
The suggestion you made to the grandmother to have her one grandchild who was NOT flunking stay with her for a while was spot on.
That teenager would do well to get away from the drama at home.
I was 17 years old when my sibling died.
My parents were consumed with grief that summer and our home life was a mess.
I was already a temperamental teenager and didn't need to deal with a crisis day after day.
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